Mother’s Day: Most Powerfull Things Every Modern Woman Should Know
As Mother’s Day turns 101 this year, it’s known mostly as a time for brunches, gifts, cards, and general outpourings of love and appreciation honoring one’s own mother, as well as motherhood, maternal bonds, and the influence of mothers in society.
One is not born a woman; one becomes one- Simone de Beauvoir.
I stumbled upon this quote in the course of this month’s research on gender identity, and it took me way back in time to a discussion we were having with my friends on gender roles and responsibilities. Do women still perform their feminine roles?
We are all familiar with the cliche statement ‘what a man can do a woman can do better’, but what happened to what women can do? Is today’s modern woman still willing to do what women do? Can she still bend to scrub the floor, do the dishes with her perfectly manicured hands, sweep out cobwebs from the wall, and generally do what in the past was associated with women? Can the modern woman be like our mothers and grandmothers, who gracefully multitasked?
Women empowerment brought a lot of benefits; the girl child is now able to access education and massive job opportunities without prejudice. We are actually headed towards a time where it will be more advantageous being a woman to being a man, what with women taking over every field that was previously preserved for the men!
But somewhere in all this excitement, we lost it. Somewhere in our quest for female recognition, we forgot that above the education, the jobs, the politics, attitude and class, you are a woman first. We forgot that after all is said and done, our femininity is our identity.
Julius Evola said, ‘to be feminine is to dedicate yourself selflessly to an external cause.’ He further added that ‘to realize yourself is to reduce in a woman all that is masculine, and in a man all that is feminine.’ These words do not imply in any way that we should quit our jobs, stop getting an education, or let go of everything women have been fighting for for years, no! But it means that above everything else, find, recognize and accept your role as a woman.
There is nothing masculine in getting your dream career; there is nothing masculine in joining politics. All this have been done by great women before, and we have proved to the men that we can do it as good as they can. But there is everything feminine in turning a house into a home, making a great meal out of dry ingredients, there is everything feminine in being able to handle school, work, a home, and oneself at the same time. Show me a man who can manage to do all this in the same period of time.
Sadly, the number of women to be used as such examples decrease daily. In as much as we compete with our men in different fields, we ought to go back to the drawing board and find ourselves. It is tough being a woman in this century and it is okay to struggle with it from time to time. What with all the challenges we face daily. But being feminine is the ability to handle all this with grace and modesty. The tag independent woman should not mislead us into assuming independence of our femininity.
In the words of Mary Shelley,‘I do not wish women to have power over men, but over themselves.’
To my dear mother, right from the start, you were the one who nurtured me, prayed over me, worried about me, guided me and supported me in every pursuit. Thank you for being there every day with just the love I needed. Happy mother’s day.